I failed at many things in my life.
Here’s a few that come to mind, in no particular order:
– Asking Ken Shina to be my boyfriend in Kindergarten. Well, I succeeded in asking, but he wouldn’t hold my hand.
– No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t draw an object from my imagination without a model.
– Getting the office job I was recommended for in high school.
– Negotiating a higher salary at IBM. They refused, so I quit.
– Convincing my six year-old niece that the darkness isn’t what really scares her. She considered a moment, then insisted, “No, the dark is scary, Aunt Steph.”
– Sent 13 personal invitations to a killer deal on my coaching program and got zero yeses.
– Playing the 90 Day Money Game 3x and never reaching my income target. Not even close.
– Submitted my memoir to Simon & Schuster Publishers and got rejected.
– Getting picked for my Tedx Talk submission for the Awakeners.
– A heels-on-the-floor squat, even though it’s supposed to be the most simple “primal” movement and I’ve been practicing for months.
– Killing the mosquito in the bedroom that’s been draining my blood for the past 3 nights
– Convincing any cat to give me attention when they don’t feel like it. (That’s not a failure; it’s flat out impossible.)
Some of these failures felt devastating in the moment. Others were trivial.
Right now, they all mean nothing outside the stories I tell about them.
They aren’t really failures. They aren’t even happening anymore. (Although the mosquito bite on my calf still itches.)
Failure is a thought.
And like any other, it feels like everything when I think it, and disappears the moment I don’t.
So what if you’re okay, always okay, no matter what happens?
I’ve been imagining it like this:
I’m living in a simulation where I can have every experience and adventure, even death, and know that it is not me. I am not the pixels on the screen or the characters they form, but the aliveness powering them.
So in that context, how can “failure” be anything other than a triumphant life experience? One that gives you the freedom to try anything, because there’s nothing to lose.
I’m seeing myself now as the Warrior of Failure. One who dares anything because the only risk is feeling a little bad for a while, which happens now and then anyway.
(Even if I still stutter when speaking Portuguese to locals. So what? I dare.)
Are you ready to see what happens when failure loses its sting?
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I believe life was designed for this: doing what you love, getting paid well for it, and enjoying every twist, turn, and so-called failure along the way.
That’s how it looks to this DragonHeart Warrior of Failure, anyway.
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Yours in love and play,
Steph
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