The wedding was dying down at the end of the night, guests saying their last goodbyes and exchanging hugs.
My husband and I were in our DJ roles under the backyard tent, playing Rusted Root’s “Send Me On My Way” for the couple’s college friends, the last holdouts on the dance floor.
I couldn’t resist. Behind the booth, I started moving to the beat, wiggling my body and singing along.
One of the guests came up to thank us for the music and then stared at me.
“You dance like Elaine on Seinfeld,” he slurred.
I froze and faked a smile. “Have a great night!”
In case you aren’t a Seinfeld person, a whole episode revolving around Elaine’s dancing, described as “a full body dry heave set to music.” (Watch the clip here if you dare.)
That one comment from a drunk guest took up residence in my head.
Stephanie can’t dance.
And then I gathered more evidence. My husband’s annoyance at my happy wiggle in the kitchen (he called it my Tardy Dance.) Not getting the combo in a cardio dance class.
When people saw my athletic build and asked if I was a dancer, I’d answer automatically:
“No. I can’t dance.”
Until my Creating the Impossible Project 2023.
I declared that I would perform a pole dance choreography in 7 inch heels before a live audience.
For some reason – probably my love for attempting crazy things to see what happens – the idea delighted me. It was so clearly not Stephanie.
I called it my Dragon Dance.
And in November of 2023, I did it. I danced.
In the process of working my tail off to make that happen, I fell in love – with pole dancing, with moving to music, with being in my body.
I couldn’t believe I’d spent my whole life not dancing when moving to music feels so good.
But life was always inviting me to dance.
How do I know?
Because I couldn’t keep myself from moving to the music. No matter how many times I told myself I shouldn’t.
Here’s what I know:
Life is inviting you to dance, too.
Your “thing” is whatever moves you. What inexplicably draws you. It’s meant for you because you want it.
The thoughts in your head aren’t telling the truth. Listen to your inner knowing, that whisper that keeps nudging you to move, create, or leap.
If you’re ready to throw off the shackles that have been holding you back (or at least loosen them a bit) I’ve brought back the DragonHeart Portal Conversations for the month of November.
You’ll get clarity about what you want (really) and an embodied experience of what happens if and when you say YES.
Book your DragonHeart Portal Session here.
Yours in love and play,
Steph
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