Last weekend I spent ten hours observing an online coaching immersive.
Over three days, mentor coach Wyn Morgan worked with a client on Zoom while a small group of coaches watched silently with cameras off.
Between sessions we shared insights and asked questions.
I’ve observed probably close to a dozen coaching sessions led by master coaches at this point, and I’ve had my own sessions supervised at least as many times.
And still, I keep showing up.
On the path of mastery, there is always something new to see.
What’s interesting is that none of this is about learning techniques or collecting information.
In transformative coaching, we’re not studying methods. We’re deepening our understanding of how our minds work through observation and reflection.
Sometimes this happens when another coach easily handles a situation that unsettles me. Suddenly I see that it’s possible.
Sometimes it happens when the client lights up with insight. Oftentimes, it happens through a simple question asked by another coach in the room.
The deeper truth I keep discovering is this:
Change is simpler than most people imagine.
All it really takes is being crystal clear that you want something to change, and willing to let that happen.
Then your beautiful mind and life shows up to support making it happen.
I saw this so clearly on my birthday three years ago.
I was spending the winter on the exotic island of Madeira. Community events and opportunities happened every week, adventures in hiking and travel. And I wasn’t going.
Not because I didn’t want to, but because I felt insecure.
And I noticed.
“I don’t mind being afraid of things I don’t want to do,” I said to myself, “but I’m sick and tired of being afraid of the things I actually want.”
I meant it. I was done.
A few days later, I had a huge insight.
I was afraid of fear itself.
I thought the feeling of fear could somehow harm me.
But fear doesn’t actually hurt my body. It feels scary and sometimes intense. But a feeling can’t hurt me.
In that moment, something relaxed.
I no longer needed to avoid fear.
Soon after that realization, I “conquered” London and had one of the best solo travel adventures of my life.
That insight has continued to expand over time. Over time, more fears have fallen away.
Even my long-standing anxiety about speaking Portuguese is gone. Now I’m happily studying for an hour or more every day.
All because of one clear intention:
I want this to change, and I’m willing for it to happen.
This is why I continue to invest my time and energy in coaching observation, supervision and deepening experiences.
When you show up with a sincere intention to grow, life always responds.
So I’m curious.
What’s something you’re clear about wanting to see differently in your life right now?
A single moment of clarity is all it takes for the change to begin.
Yours in love and play,
Steph 🐲❤️🔥
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