I had a conversation with a friend the other day that stuck with me.
It might be something you’re sitting with, too.
Joe:
It feels like everything people think they want isn’t actually what they want.
But how do you even educate people about that?
I’m noticing this in myself.
I turned down a $30,000 contract.
The market is shaky. The economy feels uncertain.
And I’m sitting here wondering…where is my money going to come from?
I guess what I really want is security.
But is that even real?
Me:
I’m not interested in educating people. Nobody wants to be educated about what they should want.
What I do is much simpler.
I ask what you want.
I listen. And then I ask more questions.
And I listen some more. Until we get to the thing underneath the thing.
Because when someone says:
“I want more money”
“I want more clients”
“I want a successful business”
There’s always something deeper.
So I ask:
Why do you want that?
What will that give you?
And eventually, we land somewhere like this:
“I want to feel free.”
“I want to feel safe.”
“I want to feel secure.”
The feeling is available now, even if the thing isn’t – and the two are completely unrelated.
When they see that for themselves, everything shifts.
Not because I told them, but because they saw it.
Joe:
Okay, but not having security feels real.
If I don’t have money, that’s not just a thought.
Me:
Sure, it feels real!
But right now, in this moment are you actually unsafe?
Or are you thinking about what might happen…and feeling unsafe?
Because when you’re here, not in the projection…
There’s a kind of okay-ness.
You have what you need right now.
The feeling of okay-ness people are chasing through money is actually available before the money
arrives.
And this is the part most people miss.
They think:
“I’ll feel safe once I figure everything out.”
“I’ll feel secure once the money comes in.”
“I’ll relax once I know how it all works out.”
But that’s backwards.
When you find the sense of okay-ness now, you still take action. You still build things. You still make money.
But you’re not doing it from panic.
You’re doing it from presence.
This is what I do with people.
Not chasing the thing you think you need, but helping you find what you’re actually looking for, and see
where you’re already living it without realizing.
From there…
You make better decisions.
You move with clarity.
You stop spinning ten thousand imaginary futures.
You start living HERE with your feet on the ground and the air in your lungs. In the only moment when you can ever be happy and free.
If something in this conversation feels familiar, let’s look at it together.
You might be closer to what you’re looking for than you think.
Book a DragonHeart Portal conversation here.
Yours in love and play,
Steph 🐲❤️🔥
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