The biggest mistake I ever made in my business wasn’t a risky decision (though I’ve made plenty of those.)
It wasn’t trusting someone who let me down (though that’s happened, too.)
The biggest business mistake I’ve ever made was not doing business the way I wanted to do it.
It wasn’t easy to spot. I thought I was doing what I wanted to do. After all, I’m the boss of my business.
It took a mentor commenting, “The content you’ve been sharing feels dampened somehow. It isn’t what I expect from you.”
It stung, but I knew he was right. I just didn’t know why.
And then, in September, it hit me.
This business wasn’t my business.
It was my best attempt to fit my desires into the box I’d unconsciously built about a business should look like.
I didn’t see it happening. I loved my clients and the conversations I was having. But when it came to sharing my offers, it was like a fading romance.
I just wasn’t that into them. The spark was gone.
After a brief, but painful oh-shit-what-do-I-do-now moment, I knew what I really wanted to create.
It had a few months earlier as a name and an impulsive domain purchase.
Steph DragonHeart.
I didn’t know what it meant, but I knew I wanted to find out.
And when I did, I saw this was about more than just my business.
I wasn’t just holding back in my marketing. It was as if my whole life had a ceiling on it that I
couldn’t see. That ceiling was made of thought – rules and shoulds and assumptions – about how I was supposed to live.
From the outside, I looked bold.
Friends who’ve known me for years have watched me leave a loving marriage, a profitable business, a comfortable life in the United States. They’ve seen reinventions, public experiment, big leaps of trusting myself.
But I was taking those leaps inside invisible limits.
What I really wanted was simpler: to do what I want to do, say what I want to say, create what I want to create.
What I wanted was to be ME.
Seeing that so clearly could have knocked the stuffing out of me, but it didn’t. Because I saw something even more powerful.
I realized I’m the one I’ve been searching for.
The experience of being fully me. And I’ve always had that, because I am that. There’s never been anything missing.
Sitting with the truth of this still takes my breath away.
Steph DragonHeart has torn the roof off my world and unleashed a creative energy I didn’t know was available, rippling across my whole life. Dance. Performance. Language learning. Money. Relationships. Coaching.
And most recently, the DragonHeart Quest.
The DragonHeart Quest is a pure offering from my heart. It feels like it has nothing to do with me.
It’s easy to share without restraint, announce with excitement, and tell everyone about it.
(That’s also the only way I’ll ever get to 10,000 Questers.)
It’s made me see how I have never been like that in my business. Even when I was excited about what I was up to, I held back.
But without that, there’s nothing but the pure joy of sharing.
If you’ve been feeling that subtle holding back in your own life, the DragonHeart Quest is a small but potent step into the fullness of your expression.
Be you. Be seen. And watch how it sparks others.
I host weekly online DragonPods where we take the Quest together.
Thursdays:
7am EST / 12pm GMT
or
11:30am EST / 4:30pm GMT
You can add a DragonPod to your calendar here.
And if none of those times work, email me. We’ll find one that does.
You being you is a joy to share.
Yours in love and play,
Steph 🐲❤️🔥
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