A couple weeks ago, @Captain1nsaneo left this comment on A Fresh Look at Conflict video on YouTube:
“I don’t know what I should think that youtube is recommending me group therapy sessions.”
I spent an embarrassingly long time arguing with Captain1nsaneo in my head.
“Coaching isn’t therapy. And this wasn’t even a coaching conversation! It was an exploration. Did you even watch it?”
It’s not the first time someone has said, “This feels like therapy,” about one of my coaching sessions. Probably because they got more vulnerable and shared more than expected.
But coaching is NOT therapy.
I think the comment bugs me because I don’t love being compared to a therapist. Therapy often deals with the past, trauma and mental health.
Coaching, at least the way I do it, isn’t interested in the past and doesn’t focus on your psychology. It’s about tapping into your present-moment creativity and creating cool stuff in the future.
But I understand why people can get confused.
When someone truly listens, when you feel seen and accepted without judgement, it invites you to say more. You can get real. That kind of space feels rare and powerful.
One client recently told me, “You’re so quiet when you’re listening that I feel really seen. I want it, but it’s also a little uncomfortable.”
But here’s the difference between what I’m doing and most therapeutic approaches: I’m not trying to fix anyone. I’m pointing to the brilliance and wisdom you’ve already got going for you, and helping you to see it, too.
Thinking about Captain1nsaneo’s comment, for a moment I thought of deleting it. Then I smiled and let it stay.
Who cares what he thinks? And more importantly, who cares what I think about what he thinks?
What other people think – or more accurately, what you make up they think – can stop you from sharing what you do. And I think your gifts are too important not to be shared because of a story of other people’s judgements.
In the IMPACT membership this month, we’re going to move past our made-up insecurities, judgements and fears and get into action creating clients naturally.
In How to Turn Connected Conversations Into Clients, you’ll discover how simple and fun it can be to have conversations that naturally led to client relationships.
Bring your questions. Bring your fears. Let’s clear the way together.
https://www.theawakenedbusiness.com/impactinvite/
Yours in love and play,
Steph
